I found this blog entry to be a great description of what we fibromyalgia sufferers go through to achieve “acceptance.” While I think acceptance is an ongoing thing, not a period at the end of a statement, I really liked this description of acceptance and wanted to share it.
A flurry of emotions arise when confronted with a life changing diagnosis, among them are fear, sadness, anger, frustration and grief. Each person handles these emotions in different ways and at varying points in the healing process. Ideally, the goal is to work towards acceptance. Acceptance, according to wikipedia.com, “is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation.” For someone with Fibromyalgia or any other chronic condition, acceptance may be difficult to achieve. How can one accept that life as they knew it, likely will change? It’s difficult to grasp.
Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up, as some may think. Acceptance involves learning to live one’s life without allowing your diagnosis to take control. This doesn’t mean that the medical conditions or the limitations it might impose disappear; it means that one has learned how to live their life in spite of these limitations.
I have faced many challenges on my ever so curvy road to acceptance. Truthfully, I’m not sure if I will ever acknowledge my illness 100%. I doubt that is possible for anyone. I’m OK with that, though because I know that there will always be times that a plethora of emotions will return to the surface. If I don’t allow the emotions to surface, it will only make me feel worse.
The flip side is that I have learned a lot about myself. I learned that the key to understanding one’s limitations is self-awareness. Awareness of what helps and what hurts, an understanding of when I am my most alert and when I need to rest. I learned when and how to ask for help. Most of all, I have learned to live my life from moment to accepting myself as I am now.
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become”. Carl Jung